Stating that you’re a Tegan and Sara fan is basically coming out to everyone within a 5 metre radius.
My response to the on-going debate over at stfubinarists over whether ‘bisexual’ is an inherently binarist term that erases non-binary and genderqueer identities:
It seems to me that the homosexual/heterosexual binary is considerably more binarist than the concept of bisexuality. Bisexuality was originally coined by sexologists to mean both homosexual and heterosexual, both attracted to those who are the ‘same sex’ and those who are a ‘different sex’, which does semantically cover everyone.
If you argue against ‘bisexuality’, surely you should also oppose people who claim to be ‘heterosexual’ but would only have a relationship with one of the binary genders?
In my experience, the bisexual community is considerably more accepting of non-binary gender identities and those who fall outside the binary, while both the gay community and normative straight society are significantly less accepting of us. I think the binarist/ciscentrism of wider society goes without saying, but I also often hear or read gay people define their attractions in term of other people’s sex/genitals, such as gay men saying their sexuality is ‘cock’ or lesbian women claiming they’re allowed to be attracted to ‘pre-operative’ trans men regardless of how they identify.
This is Neil Patrick Harris:
And this is David Burtka:
They’ve been a couple since 2004.
They love each other an incredible amount.
On October 12, 2010, via surrogate, they had twins. Harper Grace and Gideon Scott:
And tonight, June 24, 2011, after New York passed the Marriage Equality Bill, they proposed to each other. They are now engaged.
And now, they can get married.
I love them so much it hurts.